The holiday season is often described as "the most wonderful time of the year," but for many, it can also be one of the most overwhelming. Between endless to-do lists, navigating family dynamics, and trying to meet the high expectations we place on ourselves, it’s easy to get to the end of the holidays feeling more exhausted than when you started simply because you forgot to make time and space for YOU.
If you’re looking at your December and have realised that you haven’t actually scheduled in downtime then don’t beat yourself up. Instead I want you to think about including pockets of space and time for self-compassion.
At its heart, self-compassion is the practice of treating ourselves with the same kindness and understanding that we would extend to a dear friend. It’s about acknowledging our humanity and areas of growth, especially in moments when we feel overwhelmed, aggressive, or unkind toward ourselves.
When we prioritise self-compassion, we create a foundation of love and care from which we can navigate the holidays with grace and intentionality. After all, the most magical moments are born from a place of inner harmony, not external perfection.
So let’s start by introducing 5 questions you can ask in those moments when you need to invite self-compassion in, instead of overwhelm.
What do I need right now to feel supported and cared for?
Am I speaking to myself as I would to a loved one in this situation?
What is one small, kind action I can take for myself in this moment?
Is the pressure I’m feeling coming from others, or is it self-imposed?
How can I honor my needs without guilt or shame?
These reflective questions encourage you to pause, breathe, and connect with your inner wisdom. They gently remind you that it’s okay to step back, reset, and choose a path of self-kindness rather than self-judgment.
One of the most profound ways we can practice self-compassion during the holidays is by setting boundaries. Contrary to the cultural narrative that we owe our time, energy, and attention to everyone around us, self-compassion teaches us that protecting our peace is not selfish, but necessary.
Saying “no” to a gathering that feels draining or stepping away from a tense conversation isn’t a failure; it’s you honouring your needs in that moment. By setting boundaries, you communicate to yourself and others that your well-being matters.
Remember, boundaries are not about building walls; they’re about creating space for meaningful connections that feel aligned with your values.
But what if you are still struggling to rationalise this decision to put yourself first during a time of giving?
It’s easy to feel the pressure to create a picture-perfect holiday,every moment steeped in festive cheer. But true holiday magic begins with how we treat ourselves.
When we give ourselves permission to rest, reflect, and recharge, we’re better equipped to approach the season with authenticity and joy. Taking time to show yourself love might look like a quiet moment of journaling by the fire, a walk in nature, or simply sitting with a warm cup of tea and embracing stillness.
By prioritizing self-compassion, you create a ripple effect. When you nurture your own inner light, it shines outward, illuminating every interaction and experience. This holiday season, may you embrace true self-compassion, honor your well-being, and discover that the most meaningful moments are the ones born from love.
Starting with the love you show yourself.
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